
I did a Mother's Day reading for myself today using my Celtic Messages oracle deck. (I have trimmed this deck of its very busy borders.)
The layout of this spread was created and posted by an AT member
here.
1. What I have inherited from my ancestral line (mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, etc.)
2. What I am to learn from being a mother.
3. The legacy I will leave my child/children as a mother.
1. What I have inherited from my (maternal) ancestral line.
Blodeuwedd -
(Keywords:
Secrets, Solitude, Love)We'll start with
Secrets. I think my maternal grandmother harbored a pretty big secret, though it was more like one of those secrets that everyone knew but no one talked about. I didn't know about it until I was an adult, however, and she died when I was a teenager, so it never affected my relationship with her. As a Scorpio, I do have a secretive side of me. And it's not so much that I have secrets to keep, but more along the lines of liking my privacy. In fact, I don't think I have a single secret that I haven't told anyone. I'm really good at keeping other people's secrets, but not with my own. Even the most horrible deeds I've done, there's at least one person in whom I've confided.
Solitude. My mom isn't a social butterfly, and likes her quiet life. I have inherited this from her. I was an only child of a single working mother, so I grew up spending a lot of time alone. But even when my mother was home, I'd enjoy spending quiet time in my room reading. I was a book worm from an early age, another trait I picked up from my mom. To this day, I am comfortable in my own company and enjoy solitude. I never equated being alone with feeling lonely. Those are two distinctly different feelings.
Love. Well, of course, love. My grandmothers were both very loving with me and I always enjoyed spending time with them. I'm a very affectionate mother, though I have no idea who I inherited that from. I'm constantly hugging, kissing and snuggling with my kids. Though I was always loved growing up, I wasn't overly lavished with physical affection. I remember being envious of my cousins who, as teenagers, could plop down on their mother's lap and hang out there for awhile. That was something I would never feel comfortable doing with my mom. So perhaps I have inherited the desire to give my kids that physical comfort level with me. It makes sense when I analyze it that way, but to be honest, it's just something that I've always done instinctively with my children...it's like I'm magnetically drawn to them when I'm within a certain distance...they're irresistible to me! :)
The book that accompanies this deck says that Blodeuwedd was to wed the son of a goddess, but she loved someone else. She was transformed into an owl as punishment, and could never show her face to the light of day. She is a symbol of self-will and the determination to decide your own fate. This is something that I have inherited from my mother. She was always very independent. She left two marriages behind until she found the Right One. She took care of herself and raised me on her own. She taught me to be independent at a very early age. This was something I later resented, because I never felt comfortable depending on anyone. And sometimes you need to need other people. The independence she taught me does have its up side though, as I learned to live my life the way I wanted to, rather than how everyone else thought I should live it. My mother made a lot of choices that people didn't agree with, but she did what she felt was best for her. I have always done the same. Though we follow separate paths, the thing pushing us both is the conviction of self-will.
2. What I am to learn from being a mother.The Swan -
(Keywords:
Grace, Serenity)
Grace. The book states this key phrase as Grace Under Pressure. Now if that doesn't apply to motherhood, I don't know what does! When I had my son, we had a very peaceful life together for two years. Then my daughter arrived and shook things up, making our world much louder and more zestful. Add another daughter to the mix, and I can no longer even hear myself think most days. The times when I need grace under pressure is when all three kids are talking to me at once, and I feel like my head is going to explode from sensory overload. I tell them repeatedly that I only have one set of ears, not three, which makes them laugh and agree to take turns. But it's a concept that doesn't seem to sink in for very long. Grace is when I faithfully reach for more patience when it seems there's none left to be had at the bottom of the barrel. Being a mother has made a world of difference in my patience level. Before I had kids, I was the world's most impatient person. Thankfully, attachment parenting changed so much of that within me.
Serenity. This word always reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where George's father yells "Serenity Now!!!" all throughout the show. And then there's that old bubble bath commercial, "Calgon take me away!" Yes, serenity is something I need a good dose of every night after spending all day with three young children. And I approach my evenings alone with grateful reverence. Meditating is also something I have incorporated into my life, as a way of adding serenity to my daily life. Being calm in the face of upset is something that I do naturally now. Being a mother has made me much more mellow than I was before I had kids. Ironically, when the chaos of children entered my life, I became more easy going and calm.
3. The legacy I will leave my child/children as a mother.The Land -
(Keywords:
Awareness, Respect, Harmony)
Awareness. I hope to show my children, by example, the awareness of inner power. I'm a firm believer in the ability to create our own reality. The Law of Attraction is something that my children already take for granted, and it comes naturally to them. The awareness that well-being and happiness is self-empowered is something that I do hope they never lose sight of. When I was growing up, I was never taught these positive principles. My life would have been a lot easier (and so different) if I had this awareness about conscious living earlier on in life.
Respect. We live our lives different from the mainstream. I want my kids to be respectful of everyone's choices in life, however different they are. The choices we make aren't as important as the freedom to make them, and the respect we owe each other to make those choices for ourselves.
Harmony. As unschoolers, my kids are exposed to people of all different ages and walks of life. There are no cliques, so there's no need to try to "fit in" with a certain group of people, thereby making yourself
not fit in with others. They have learned to naturally be comfortable with all types of people, and despite their differences, they are able to harmonize with most people they meet. The obvious exclusions we make are people who are mean-spirited or those who make us feel uncomfortable.
The Land card is about respecting the Earth, minimizing the harm we inflict on this planet, doing what we can to make things better, and encouraging others to do likewise. My children have been doing this from a very early age. They are all very concerned about the environment and animal rights. They are proud to be vegan, and they realize the impact the choices they make have on the planet. They are very conscious, very aware, and very active when it comes to taking care of our planet and fellow inhabitants.
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This was a really great reading to do on Mother's Day, giving me a lot of food for thought about myself and my relationships with my children and my mother.
I did another set of quick readings with my kids today, using a different spread which was also designed for Mother's Day. They were really insightful too. If I have time soon, I might post those here as well.
Deck: Celtic Messages